As the Father has sent me, so I send you. And when He said this, He breathed on them and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. Whose sins you forgive are forgiven them, and whose sins you retain are retained.” (John 20:21-22)
The movement of return to God, called conversion and repentence, entails sorrow for and abhorrence of sins committed, and the firm purpose of sinning no more in the future. Conversion touches the past and the future and is nourished by God’s mercy. (CCC 1490).
- Monday and Friday: 11:30 am-12:00 noon*
- Wednesday evening: 6:30 pm-7:30 pm*
- Saturday: 9:00 am-10:00 am & 3:30 pm-4:30 pm*
- First Friday of the month: After the 8:30 am Mass and at 6:30 pm*
Five Steps for a Good Confession
Procedure in the Confessional
Bless me, Father, in this confession. It has been – (state the length of time) – since my last confession. I accuse myself of the following sins.
Then tell your mortal sins and the number times committed. If you have no mortal sin to confess, then confess the venial sins you have committed since your last confession. When you have finished telling your sins, you should say:
For these and all the sins of my past life especially for my sins of [. . .] , I am truly sorry.The priest now gives the necessary advice, assigns your penance and asks you to say the Act of Contrition (in some form). Then wait and listen as the priest gives the absolution.Then say Thank you, Father, leave the confessional and perform the penance assigned by the priest.
An Act of Contrition
The Differences in Sin
There are two major kinds of sin: original and actual.
Actual sin is sin which people commit. There are two kinds of actual sin, mortal and venial.
Mortal sin is a horrible offense against God, so horrible that it destroys the life of grace in the soul. Three simultaneous conditions must be fulfilled for a mortal sin: (1) the act must be something very serious; (2) the person must have full knowledge and (3) the person must give full consent of the will. So I cannot commit a mortal sin if the matter is not serious (e.g., if I stole a small amount of money from my employer), or if I did not know what I was doing (e.g., if I were to hurt someone accidentally or unthinkingly), or if I did not act with full freedom (e.g., I was under great physical or emotional pressure.)
Examination of Conscience
- I am the Lord your God. You shall not have strange gods before Me.
- Do I give God time every day in prayer?
- Do I seek to love Him with my whole heart?
- Have I been involved with superstitious practices or have I been involved with the occult?
- Do I seek to surrender myself to God’s Word as taught by the Church?
- Have I ever received Communion in the state of mortal sin?
- Have I ever deliberately told a lie in Confession or have I withheld a mortal sin from the priest in Confession?
- You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain.
- Have I used God’s name in vain: lightly or carelessly?
- Have I been angry with God?
- Have I wished evil upon any other person?
- Have I insulted a sacred person or abused a sacred object?
- Remember to keep holy the Lord’s Day.
- Have I deliberately missed Mass on Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation
- Have I tried to observe Sunday as a family day and a day of rest?
- Do I do needless work on Sunday?
- Honor your father and your mother.
- Do I honor and obey my parents?
- Have I neglected my duties to my spouse and children?
- Have I given my family good religious example?
- Do I try to bring peace into my home life?
- Do I care for my aged and infirm relatives?
- You shall not kill.
- Have I had an abortion or encouraged anyone to have an abortion?
- Have I physically harmed anyone?
- Have I abused alcohol or drugs?
- Did I give scandal to anyone, thereby leading them into sin?
- Have I been angry or resentful?
- Have I harbored hatred in my heart?
- Have I mutilated myself through any form of sterilization?
- Have I encouraged or condoned sterilization?
- You shall not commit adultery.
- Have I been faithful to my marriage vows in thought and action?
- Have I engaged in any sexual activity outside of marriage?
- Have I used any method of contraception or artificial birth control?
- Has each sexual act in my marriage been open to the transmission of new life?
- Have I been guilty of masturbation?
- Have I sought to control my thoughts?
- Have I respected all members of the opposite sex, or have I thought of other people as objects?
- Have I been guilty of any homosexual activity?
- Do I seek to be chaste in my thoughts, words and actions?
- Am I careful to dress modestly?
- You shall not steal.
- Have I stolen what is not mine?
- Have I returned or made restitution for what I have stolen?
- Do I waste time at work, school or at home?
- Do I gamble excessively, thereby denying my family of their needs?
- Do I pay my debts promptly?
- Do I seek to share what I have with the poor?
- You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
- Have I lied?
- Have I gossiped?
- Have I spoken behind someone else’s back?
- Am I sincere in my dealings with others?
- Am I critical, negative, or uncharitable in my thoughts of others?
- Do I keep secret what should be kept confidential?
- You shall not desire your neighbor’s wife.
- Have I consented to impure thoughts?
- Have I caused them by impure reading, movies, conversation, or curiosity?
- Do I seek to control my imagination?
- Do I pray at once to banish impure thoughts and temptations?
- You shall not desire your neighbor’s goods.
- Am I jealous of what other people have?
- Do I envy other people’s families or possessions?
- Am I greedy or selfish?
- Are material possessions the purpose of my life?
- Do I trust that God will care for all of my material and spiritual needs?